How To Handle Your Stress When Exams are approaching?
Can We “Handle”
Stress?
Contrary to popular belief, we CAN
NOT “handle” stress.
Stress does not exist. It is NOT a
thing that you can hold nor eat
Stress is a feeling resulting from
your thoughts.
From your ‘negative’ thoughts, to be
precise.
When your
mind is constantly thinking on negative thoughts, for example: you are scared
to fail, or not getting an A*, etc…; you create bad feelings inside
your body from all the negative thoughts.
The bad feelings that you feel, is
what you call ‘stress’.
The more you want to “handle” your
stress, the more you think there is something wrong with you. This creates more
pressure and more negative thoughts.
Why would you do that then?
Shall we agree from now on you don’t
try to “handle” your stress anymore?
We only take “YES” as the
answer
So what should you do then? Keep
reading…
1. Admit You Have
Negative Thoughts
There is really no big deal to admitting
that we have negative thoughts. Everyone has them.
Having the courage to admit that you
have negative thoughts, will already get rid of most of the bad feelings.
Know that you can’t fight darkness
with darkness. You can only fight darkness with light. By admitting the
existence of negativity, you have inserted the light of positivity.
This is the most important starting
point, and it is essential for you to continue to the next step.
2. Change Your
Thoughts
Now that you know stress is the bad
feelings you created from all your negative thoughts, all you need to do is to
change your thoughts.
Here are some steps for you to start
doing that:
·
Start by imagining the positive
outcomes that you want to see or to have.
·
Albert Einstein said: “Logic will get you from A to B. Imagination will take you
everywhere.”
·
Make a list of things that you are
afraid of or frustrated about. Next, write the positive opposite of everything
on your list. For example: I am scared of exams. The positive opposite: I
handle exams with ease.
The final step is you must train
yourself to keep this happy feeling and not let yourself slide backwards to the
negative thoughts.
Step 3 will show you exactly how to
do this.
3. Gratitude
The best
way to keep your mind on positive thoughts is － gratitude.
Read these beautiful quotes:
“When you
are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears.” ~ Tony Robbins
“There are
only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The
other is as though everything is a miracle.” ~ Albert Einstein
“Gratitude
unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It
turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity…. It
turns problems into gifts, failures into success, the unexpected into perfect
timing, and mistakes into important events.” ~ Melodie Beatty
You can be grateful for the chance to
study, the ability to read and write, for having a comfortable bed, for the
luxury of clean running water and electricity, etc
Pay attention to how you feel. If you
are not feeling good, that means your mind is currently broadcasting negative
thoughts.
Immediately find something you can be
grateful for….
